So we returned home, a 30-minute drive away, just near twilight, and I mentioned that I needed to go grocery shopping. “I think I’ll call Hubby,” I said, starting to text him (for those of you wondering, yes, she was driving). “He can come shopping with me.”

I texted Superman, who had spent the entire day playing games with Danielle’s husband. Here is the actual response I received:

“No, we’re about to (do a specific play in the game). I’m sorry.”

Not a big deal, and I understood, as Superman and Danielle’s husband, Ryan, play games online, and when they’re in the middle of something, if one leaves, all of them have to stop playing. However, when we drove up to Danielle’s home not five minutes later, Ryan’s car was missing.

We sat there for several seconds, and Danielle looked at me. “Where’s Ryan?” she asked, smiling.

I immediately called Superman – who happened to be eating dinner with Ryan.

Can I say BUSTED???!!

“I thought you were busy in the game,” I said smoothly.

“Uh, yeah, we just decided to take a break.” And he knew he was busted, too!

“Before or after I texted you?”

“Um…so when are we going to the grocery store?”

I started laughing. “I’ll come pick you up.”

I know some wives who would have gotten mad at this situation, who would have nagged their husband for the lie. But…in the grand scheme of things, it’s so small, so insignificant. Plus, it’s not like Superman didn’t realize the error in his ways.

I have to watch myself that I don’t a) pick fights and b) fight about inconsequential things. Who cares, really, whether the clothes get put up RIGHTTHISSECOND? Does it really matter that Husband made an off-hand remark that made you bristle? No…and communication really is the key. Not just communication as of “how was your day” and “what do you want for dinner” but communication to ward off arguments as well. Say, “You know, that statement you made upset me, and here’s why…” or “You know, honey, how about we eat at my favorite restaurant this time and at yours next time?” So many of the arguments in the Super household, at least, could be solved if we just talked it out instead of bottling it inside.

And even the silly “delayed truths” – in the long run, they’re not so important, either.