Lies Wives Believe

Is He a Source of Stability?

There’s an old joke that goes something like this:

On their 50th wedding anniversary, the farmer’s wife said she was leaving him.   He asked, “Why?”

She said, “Because you don’t love me.”

He asked, “Why do you say that?”

She said, “Because you never say that you love me!”

He replied, “I told you that I love you on our wedding day.  If I ever change my mind, I’ll let you know!”

One of the things that struck me while reading For Men Only¹ is that it seems that women are always in need of reassurance that they are loved.  In fact, it’s the first thing that the book tells you about.  The fact that women are always wondering.

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What This Leads To

As a guy, we don’t have this underlying insecurity.  If we do wonder, we’ll usually ask or try to prompt a response.  According to Jeff Feldhahn, a women wants a response as well, only she will try to get it indirectly, by hinting around it or wanting to spend time discussing where the relationship is or where it is headed.

The Solution

So the solution is for us guys to take the initiative to let our wives know that we love them.  This is especially necessary when we least feel like saying it—in the middle of an argument or when there’s something on our minds.

What this means to wives is that it would be productive for you to have a discussion with your husband to let him know of this need (if you have it) and let him know that you really care about him.  Or, just give him a copy of the book and let him read it for himself!

1. Which I reviewed here [↩]