Lies Wives Believe

Society wants us to think one way, and the Bible another.  And yet, only one of these ways that will help us to not only be complete, but to feel complete as well.

Nancy Leigh DeMoss, in her famous Lies Women Believe: And the Truth that Sets Them Free¹ stated, “It’s a lie to believe you must have a career outside of your home to feel fulfilled.”

You see, we read and hear so many negative things about submission because a large part of our society operates on envy.  We are not content with who we are, what our role is supposed to be and our makeup—we must be who we are not.

Read the rest of this entry »

1. The partial inspiration for this site! [↩]

read comments (2)

We all know that the Bible commands that wives submit and respect their husbands.  We’ve heard it time and again, and though it’s a difficult command, we know that since God expects it of women, that it must be done.

Submission does not mean “door mat”, but instead means that one chooses to allow the other person to lead.  I like to think of it like rank in the Army—submission means that the authority belongs with another, and that I should obey what they have to say—even when I may have a different, and sometimes better, opinion.

However, did you know that there are 6 times when a wife should not submit to her husband?  This list is borrowed heavily from a Handy Reference Guide of When Not to Submit.

Read the rest of this entry »

read comments (5)

Men and women were meant to compliment each other.  They are not the same, and no matter how much the culture would like to equate them, they will never be the same.

Physically, her brain is wired differently.  As you learn on any ladies anti-perspirant commercial, it may be “strong enough for a man”, but “it’s ph balanced for a woman.”

They have different needs, different values and though there may be some statistical anomalies, there are very strong patterns in each sex.

It’s our culture that’s attempted to lump them together, and it’s our culture that’s wrong.

Now, even if you believe that femininity and masculinity are socially constructed, this question is still relevant: What does our society value most? Or better yet, who is more admirable? A woman who is the CEO of a major corporation with no husband to slow her down, or a woman who is married with five children and no career? Which one of those made you cringe? Made you feel more pity? My guess is the latter.

As Wendy Shalit explained in her book A Return to Modesty: Discovering the Lost Virtue [affiliate link mine], nowadays femininity sadly makes us squirm. In fact, in society today, we are raging war against femininity and trying to pretend it doesn’t actually exist. But the saddest part of all is that society can only become a much more moral, loving place when feminine values of uniting and nurturing are the objective, not only divide and conquer. It’s no wonder why women often feel so unfulfilled by the hook-up culture, and feel at a loss when they do wish and try to seek commitment. It isn’t deeply fulfilling to have detached sexual experiences with men, and because society doesn’t value feminine ideals, it’s exceedingly difficult to find commitment in a masculine world where detachment is synonymous with freedom. [Loving Only Lucy]

And it’s true because each sex defines things differently, and women are now told that they must be men to be free, we risk losing something very special.

Though I believe that we will not lose it long, for at some point women will realize that they have been cheated out of being uniquely themselves—won’t they?

read comments (3)