Lies Wives Believe

I Know All There Is To Know

You were married.  You have lived together for sometime.  But at some point—and we all reach this point—you decided that there is no longer anything new to learn about your spouse.  Indeed, you’ve stopped learning about your spouse and have decided that there’s nothing new to learn!

The problem is that you’re both changing people.  You are both a product of what is going on around you, and your opinions and feelings about things may change.  So why is it that the people that are closest to us stop trying to learn about us?

The Thrill of the Hunt

Part of it is the excitement has worn off.  When you first met, you had a whole lot to learn about him.  You shared every moment talking about likes and dislikes, finding out his dreams and his emotions, and talking about everything with him to find out his opinion.

Now you figure that you’ve pretty much have him figured out.  You’ve seen that you can predict with some reliability what he’ll say next, and you like that comfort.

The thing is, he’s changing.  His goals may not be the same as they were when you married.  Reality may have changed some of his plans, or he may now have a better understanding of something that was previous a puzzle to him.

It Still Happens—If We Put forth the Effort

When you’re in a new group of people, you find yourself having the fun of learning people all over again.  You talk about the same questions and answers, you find out what you like and dislike—and though you can’t find out everything fresh from your spouse, you should make times that you sit and talk about hopes, dreams and perspective.

If you immerse yourself in each other’s day, you’ll find that you become a part of your spouse, and you’ll find, every now and then, something that you didn’t know and that’s interesting.

But rewards only come to those that are patient and wait.