Lies Wives Believe

5 Common Flirting Myths

Flirting.  It could be used as a derogatory term¹ to say that you’re never serious about a person or a relationship.  It could be something that you do without knowing it to have fun or to gain attention.

However, there are a lot of flirting myths out there, and we’re here to tackle 5 of them today—right before your very eyes.  So sit back, smile, and look at these below:

1. It’s Harmless

Of those that flirt, many believe it to be harmless.  Some believe that they are just being friendly, while others look at it as a way to communicate.  The problem is that communication is a two way street.  You may know what messages you are sending, but you cannot control what messages they may be receiving.

Whether it’s the guy that falls for the girl who really wasn’t that interested in him to something more severe, flirting carries the power of attraction and conveys a sense of openness that may or may not be meant.  Hence why the use of the derogatory earlier—the implied meaning is that you may think that the guy or girl likes you when in reality they are either out to use you or just having fun.

Flirting is not harmless because it effects two different people—the person that you’re flirting with and your spouse.

2. My Husband Understands

It may be true that your spouse understands, but that doesn’t mean that they necessarily approve.  The cute conversation you have with the waiter or the bank teller could be seen by that person as an advance—or your husband might perceive it as such, especially if you don’t talk that way with him.

If you’re not cutesy or flirty with him, but you are with strangers, what does that say to him?

3. My Husband Knows

Men like to hear that they’re the object of their wives desire.  They like the feeling of knowing that the girl that he’s with is his alone.  Now, if you’re telegraphing availability to others—and he’ll know when you do—then what do you think that does to him?

4. He’s Doing it all the Time As Well

You may see him be flirty when you are present, and then wonder if he’s that way when you’re not.  He may be, he might not be.  The trick is that both spouses should get into the habit (if they aren’t already) of talking up their spouses when they are with the opposite sex.  There should be no question in the mind of any woman or man that you’re already taken.

5. There’s No One I Can Flirt With

That’s not true—it’s perfectly fine to flirt with your spouse.  In fact, I encourage it!

1. She’s such a flirt! [↩]