Lies Wives Believe

Not Tonight

The truth is, the two of you were made for each other—both physically and as the cliche goes.  Part of the marriage covenant means being physically available to one another, and though you may believe that you’re making him want it more by withholding—or that you’re teaching him a lesson, you are hurting the physical glue that helps bind the two of you together.

Seriously, physical intimacy does so much to hold the two of you together—and it is something that is pure inside the marriage relationship!

It Helps You

Not only are there the physical benefits of exercise and hormones that he gives you, but there’s the intimacy it builds.  The act of marriage keeps the two of you together.  It causes him to think exclusively of you.  There’s no one else there, and he is focused on the pleasure you give, and hopefully pleasing you.

The more that you do it, the more that he will find in you the focus of his desire and pleasure.  The more he builds this relationship with you, the better he will treat you and the more he’ll want to please you.

It Helps Him

It provides him with release.  If this does not happen often enough, he is more susceptible to physical temptation.  His resistance to lust of the eyes diminishes, and his mind can become distracted and wander.  He may also get more frustrated, and tend to get angry.

The fact of the matter is, this is one of the needs that you, his wife, are supposed to meet.  This is every bit as important as the need of food, security and shelter.  But sometimes we come up with excuses not to meet that need.

And that’s all they are, excuses.

Don’t lie to yourself and believe that this is something that you can use to manipulate him.  It might work for a time, but he’s bound to get frustrated, and what he will do when he’s frustrated could take many paths—none of them too pretty.