Lies Wives Believe

You Just Don’t Measure Up

“Oh?  Let me tell me tell you what my husband did the other day!”  Said Krista.

“What was that?” asked Julie.

“Well, we all went out for something to eat, and right in the middle of dinner my husband let out this loud burp!”

“Really!  You must have been so embarrassed!”

“Yes, but he wasn’t.  I tell you, I think he enjoyed making a fool out of me.  My husband can’t seem to get anything right…”

“Same here.  Why, just the other day, he put my brand new pan in dishs soap—nearly ruined it.  I told him to leave the dishwashing to me from now on.”

The problem of belittling a spouse cuts both ways.  You see, we each have a way of doing things that is unique.  We’ve tested a few different ways, or have actually been trained to do it.  So when our spouse tries to do that very thing, we expect perfection.

Only they are seldom perfect.

What we should do instead of judge and belittle (especially to others!) is to take the time to help train them.  We may be experts, but that doesn’t mean that we should glory, but realize that others can benefit from what we’ve already learned.

If we belittle instead, we will find that we will only make our spouse angry or despondent.  Neither of these things are fun to live with, and they are just part of the breaking of the foundation of love and trust that leads to separation and divorce.