Lies Wives Believe

My Way or Divorce Court

"That’s funny," remarked Laura, Noah is the same way.

“I just can’t understand him sometimes,” added Tracy.  “At one point it sounds like we’re totally on the same page.  We read each other’s mind.  But then all of a sudden—“

“—he does something so stupid.  Then he claims it the only logical way, right?”

“Exactly.”

“Men.  I don’t know why they’re that way, but they just don’t understand that we women know the right way to do things more often than not.  I don’t know how many times I have to get Noah to come out of his workshop and do something around the house.  And don’t get me started about how he doesn’t ask for directions,” Laura laughed.

“But does he listen to you?  Because I think that sometimes Adam tunes me out.”

“I told him early on that it was either my way or the highway, so he’d better listen.  Sure, I let him make a few decisions, but for the big ones I have to have the last word.”

Many wives do not hold their husbands in high respect.  Oh they say that they do, but what their actions say is a whole lot louder than their words—from their actions you wonder if they believe that their husbands can do anything right.

The problem, I believe, stems from the fact that the two people usually two entirely different lines of work, and are attuned to two entirely different set of circumstances and stimuli.

Men are wired for work, for getting things done and accomplished, and they will usually have a single plan to get them done.  Having a list of things to do to provide accomplishment is a great thing.  The reward of a job well done is more often greater for them than the road travelled.

Women, on the other hand, like the journey.  They process multiple things, and they are less goal oriented.  While they like getting the job done, it’s also the process.  That’s one of the reasons they like cooking—they get to taste the progress as well as taste the final result.  Men just want the meal done—preferably 10 minutes ago!

It’s important that both spouses realize this in part of their communication.  They need to realize that both of them come from a different perspective, and that you committed to be with each other for life.  That doesn’t mean that you can threaten or head for the exits the moment things don’t go the way that you believe they should.

Simply because society has given more power to the woman in the relationship doesn’t mean that God ordained her to that role, or that assuming that leadership is best for the family.

God’s way is always best.