Lies Wives Believe

Remember The Children

Something happens when a woman becomes a mom.  The dad loves his children, spends time with his children, but is still a man.  A woman changes, and is much more easily focused on her children than on her husband.

It may be that the wife is more invested in the children.  She’s more nurturing, probably spends more time with them.  They were a part of her insides once, and they have a special bond.

The problem is that the primary relationship that a wife needs to maintain is the one with her husband—both for their sake and the child’s sake.

Your Pledge

The truth is, your marriage will not survive if you do not give each other the attention you pledged to each other.  When you said “forsaking all others” that included your children in a way.  You promised to have a primary relationship with your spouse.  Yes, you love your children and need to show them that love.  But that love cannot come at the cost of losing your relationship with your husband.

Your Sanity

If you focus constantly on them, your husband will probably grow distant and seek to form relationships elsewhere.  As he finds ways to spend time elsewhere, your sanity will suffer as you spend more and more time with your children and less and less in adult companionship.

Your children

They need to see an adult relationship modeled.  If you show them that they dominate your life with your husband, they will have a warped perspective on marriage, and a warped opinion of their own self.  They will be spoiled and seek to control every moment of your day.

They are your children, and they need to learn that they do not take primacy in your household—you and your husband do.

So, remember the children, but don’t let them get in the way of your relationship with your spouse!