Lies Wives Believe

It’s Not Really That Bad

Coming in from a rough afternoon, Noah sits down on the couch, clearly dismayed.  When Laura walks by on her way to the kitchen, she sees him and asks him, “What’s wrong?”

“Everything.  Nothing that I do seems to work.”

“Oh come on, you’re blowing things out of proportion.”

“No, seriously, everything I did today broke.  The potion I tried to create smells like my stinky socks, the television I tried to fix broke… Some days I wonder if I’m just not cut out for this line of work.”

“Well, it’ll get better with time, Noah.”  Laura turns and walks away.

It’s a typical reaction.  We tend to see things differently than our spouse, and instead of listening and trying to get to the root of the problem, we want to pretend as if there is no problem at all.  We downplay and ignore each other’s feelings and we believe that we’re actually encouraging the other person.

A husband is sensitive, just in different ways than his wife.  He derives worth from his wife and when things are well with her, they are also well with him.  He can climb the mighty fortress if only she is standing beside him.

So listen to his concerns, don’t downplay them.  You’ll encourage him more in that you value what he feels than you will if you just pretend they don’t exist.