Lies Wives Believe

His Job Is Easier Than Mine

When asked what my wife does, I usually responds that she works at home—and works harder than I do, but is that the case?

It’s easy for wives to fall into the trap of believing that they work harder than their husbands, and to use it as a wedge against their husbands to keep them unhappy.

But don’t take my word for it, here’s militarywifey’s Why his job isn’t easier than mine:

Now the fact that our husbands work does not absolve them of parental responsibility. A parent is a parent no matter the condition. However, it does mean that they are not to be scolded or unfairly demeaned for not doing all the housework when they have a 40+ hr a week job to attend to. I’m talking about this from the viewpoint of a stay-at-home wife and/or mother. We shouldn’t malign our husbands because they don’t come home and make us steak dinner every night in addition to vaccuuming the living room. We do not marry men so they can serve us. Neither do men marry us so we can primarily serve them. We marry each other so we can serve each other in different ways. In many marriages, and in mine in particular, my husband serves me through his providing for the family. I serve my husband through being his loving wife, through supporting his career, through raising our child, through attending to our home, and through being his help-meet. And I am glad to be his help-meet. I am glad to be able to be there for him. I am glad to help him in any way possible.

This is completely true—we both are together to serve each other.  Wife, if you have the ability to stay at home, chances are it’s because your husband is able to make enough money for you to do it.  Many wives are working because they have to (either perceived or through the choices that the couple has made).

It’s both perspective and loving service!