Lies Wives Believe

Keeping Your Daughter Pure Is Your Responsibility

When it comes to little girls, dads are an enigma.  They are easily persuaded by them—and the love that they show to their dad.  There is a weird set of feelings toward them—and they can easily be confused about whether they should protect them or be hands off.

Dad can easily leave a lot of the raising of his daughter to his wife—her mother—and expect that “since she’s a woman, she knows how to raise a woman, so why should I get involved.

And yet, like the dad in the picture, if a dad chooses not to get involved he might not do a good enough job conveying his perspective and providing the protection that he should be providing.

You see, it’s the father’s job to help his daughter not only know how to dress—and what her clothing says to others, but to teach her the value of purity and model what he wants the man that she someday will marry to look like.

Dad as Example

I often thought that a mother would be the one that would do most of the work bringing up a daughter.  I had visions of the two of them cooking together, and enjoying mutual interests.  I expected to teach my sons how to play ball, how to fix things, and perhaps how to blog.  It’s weird how we compartmentalize our roles!

The thing is, each parent is an example to the kids of what a healthy relationship looks like.  Mom is not only showing her daughter how to love her husband and take care of the house, but she’s also showing her sons what to look for in a wife.

The same thing goes for dad—but a lot of the time I don’t think dads realize the power that they have with their daughters, and so they marginalize themselves.

Get Involved

Don’t let dad remain detached from any of his children.  Make sure he gets involved with his daughter and shows her what a good man looks like.  Make sure that he helps show her modesty and purity—and don’t be afraid to ask his opinion about what clothes you wear either!

It’s his function, as the man in the house that he be able to share his perspective and difference of opinion—he will see the clothing that you and your daughters wear as a man would see them, not as how cute or fashionable you might think something immodest is.

If you want him to lead and fulfill his role, you need to encourage his participation—your whole family will be better for it!