Lies Wives Believe

Why does my hair even matter?

I’ll never forget the day I cut my hair.

Drastically cut, I mean. I let my hair grow out in college, and for our wedding, it was a great length – not too long, but definitely past the shoulders.

Probably three weeks after my husband and I got married, I chopped it off. It was unintentional. I wanted something that hit right at the bottom of my neck, and, as I had a new home over an hour away from my former stylist, I decided to find another one.

BIG MISTAKE.

I should have never gone in blind to a stylist who didn’t know me from Eve and expect her to know what I wanted. That was my mistake. But the haircut I got out of the experience was the worst I’d ever received. I went home, horrified at my new ‘do, and I hoped my husband would comfort me.

Unfortunately, he was just as horrified at my new look as I was, and I burst into tears. He tried to comfort me after that, but we both knew that my short hair was not as flattering as the long hair had been.

It also didn’t help that for a good year after that so many people said I looked like a movie star…but not an attractive one. Fabulous.

What does this have to do with marriage, you ask? Lots! I’ve been listening to podcasts by Mark Driscoll lately, ones from last November on the Song of Solomon that I’m just catching up on (I recently discovered the amazing world of podcasts), and during one, he mentioned something important in marriages: hairstyles. What? Yes, hairstyles.

Some guys do like their wives to have longer hair, and, if your husband fits into that category, you should respect his tastes. I don’t mean have this super long hair that you hate (if you’re not crazy about long hair), but do try to think about his desires, too. Does he like short hair? Chop that hair off and make it easier to fix!

I’m speaking generally about hair, but I think we should always try to look attractive for our husbands. Even when I get out of the shower and take my make up off, I do brush my hair out and put on lotion and some body spray and maybe a little chapstick – nothing much; it takes about two additional minutes (I time EVERYTHING.). I take those two minutes to try to look pretty for my husband, even without my hair fixed or any make up on.

Not to say that guys shouldn’t try their best to look attractive for their wives! I hate face stubble, so Hubby tries to make sure that he is always clean shaven. He cuts his hair in a style that I love, and, he wears outfits he knows I like to see him wear. It’s a two-way street.

Men are very visual creatures, and it helps them – and us! – if we strive to look our best. Your husband is satisfied from seeing his wife, and we are satisfied knowing that our husbands find us attractive.

Beauty should not be our main focus in this world by ANY means, but we should consider how we appear to our husbands. And whether it’s long hair, short hair, or any way you like it, just keep him in mind, and hopefully, he’ll keep you in mind, too, before he puts on that “Game over” wedding shirt his groomsmen bought him ten years ago. =)