Lies Wives Believe
A Satirical Look at Married Life
Is He a Source of Stability?
Author: MInTheGap
There’s an old joke that goes something like this:
On their 50th wedding anniversary, the farmer’s wife said she was leaving him. He asked, “Why?”
She said, “Because you don’t love me.”
He asked, “Why do you say that?”
She said, “Because you never say that you love me!”
He replied, “I told you that I love you on our wedding day. If I ever change my mind, I’ll let you know!”
One of the things that struck me while reading For Men Only1 is that it seems that women are always in need of reassurance that they are loved. In fact, it’s the first thing that the book tells you about. The fact that women are always wondering.
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read comments (0)Helpful or Disrespectful?
Author: MInTheGap
Nina at the respect dare poses an interesting situation in her post, What’s the Difference between Being Disrespectful and Being Helpful? She saw a situation where her husband saw a friend at church and she thought he should go with the man instead of her taking him to Sunday School as he had requested.
Submission doesn’t mean that the woman doesn’t have an opinion or is a door mat. This is false thinking. What it really means is a difference in rank.
The concept is the same as that which you’d find on board a military vessel between the captain and the first officer. The idea is that there is a rank difference—the man has the authority to make the final call—but the woman is right there, trained, and able to help as well.
In this case, it made a lot more sense for Nina’s husband to walk his friend to Sunday School and Nina to take the kids. She was more observant than she was in this case.
Are You “Love” To Your Husband?
Author: MInTheGap
Better half. Beauty with the Beast. The Stronger of the Two. The Prettier of the Two.
There are many things that the culture expects you to be as his wife. Perhaps you even feel that you should be his competition! The Bible has a lot to say about husbands and wives, especially about the type of wife God wants you to be.
Strong, Loving Man
Author: MInTheGap
Why is it that we deny the obvious? Men and women are physically built differently, and women still get defensive because they feel that they have to be the same as a man.
What we should be doing is using the strengths that each of us has to build a stronger whole:
While I can intellectually understand that men are physically stronger, what has been missing from the discussion about the Biblical roles of men and women is this: women have a strength that men typically do not…
Communication. Relationships.
…
Neither are “better than” the other.
We’re just different.
And together, male and female, we make the image of God.
[I need and Want a Strong Loving Man… You? – The Respect Dare]
So let’s stop trying to figure out who’s better, men or women, and instead, let’s focus on making our marriages something that’s all that God wants them to be!
What Role Does Weight Play In Marriage?
Author: MInTheGap
In the Country Song, Hot Mama, Trace Adkins confronts something all marriage relationships go through:
You’re doin’ all you can to get in them old jeans.
You want that body back, you had at seventeen.
Baby, don’t get down; don’t worry ’bout a thing.
‘Cause the way you fill ‘em out, hey, that’s all right with me.
I don’t want the girl you used to be.
An’ if you ain’t noticed, the kids are fast asleep,
We all know that bodies change, they never stay the same. For the wife and mother, this is even more dramatic. It seems that, for nine months, the soon to be mom is putting on weight, and then is expected to lose it all in the first few days after the baby makes its appearance.
Let alone the fact that there’s “sympathy weight” that the man gets, metabolisms going down, less time to get out and work out—it seems only the natural progression that the husband and the wife will put on weight.
But should that effect the relationship, does it?
You Got Her Pregnant, Should You Marry Her?
Author: MInTheGap
When I was a teen, we had a couple of girls get pregnant in our church. Both of them were encouraged to marry the father of the baby. At least one of those marriages is still going today.
But the idea that a teenage mom should marry the father is not settled in Christian circles.
Take this comment from Mouse:
I believe the point of marriage is to glorify God, not to correct a mistake. What is the foundation of a marriage that has a purpose of fixing behavior? That is, teenage sex is a symptom of a deeper heart issue that needs to be addressed. Making two kids get married because the young woman is pregnant is like putting a bandaid on a broken leg.
That said, I believe in young marriage. I believe that is God’s design. But if the point of saying “I do” is to right a wrong instead of serve God through serving your spouse, the marriage is doomed no matter how old you are. – Should Teen Moms Get Married?
What To Do When He Doesn’t Make The Right Decision
Author: MInTheGap
Let’s face it, life is filled with different kinds of decisions. There are the easy decisions and difficult decisions.
Husbands and Fathers are responsible to the Lord for how they manage their families, and as such, they are ultimately responsible for the decision making process—or at least what decisions are made.
Harry Truman may have said, “The Buck stops here”—but this is also the case for the man in the relationship.
Why Is It Not Good for Men to Be Alone?
Author: MInTheGap
In Genesis 2 we have this interesting statement made by God—that it’s not good for man to be alone. It’s the sole reason that we are given for the creation of Eve—that God saw that every other created being had a partner, and Adam had none.
So, let’s start there—why do you think that it was important that Adam was not alone, and how about Modern Adams?
Companionship
One of the most obvious reasons that jumps out at me is that God knew that Adam needed companionship. That’s what I get in that He looked over all of creation and saw that every other created being had a pair and Adam did not have anyone.
But wait, you say, Adam had God. And that’s true. He did have a relationship with God that we do not have today.
If You’re Working On Your Weight, So Should He
Author: MInTheGap
The following from I am Husband is totally true:
Whenever our wives gain [weight] we think they should take control of it. They should go to the gym, they should “care” about what they look like. We often hear people say of women “She just let herself go” but we don’t really hear that about men. We joke about the growing spare tire and tell ourselves it doesn’t matter because men care about the physical appearance of women more than the other way around. Though to a certain extent that’s true, I have a little secret to share with you today:
Wives want their husbands to be in shape too.
Where Do You Live?
Author: MInTheGap
Society wants us to think one way, and the Bible another. And yet, only one of these ways that will help us to not only be complete, but to feel complete as well.
Nancy Leigh DeMoss, in her famous Lies Women Believe: And the Truth that Sets Them Free
You see, we read and hear so many negative things about submission because a large part of our society operates on envy. We are not content with who we are, what our role is supposed to be and our makeup—we must be who we are not.
- The partial inspiration for this site! [↩]